Whether for a short-term fling or a long-term commitment, the first step on how to meet men is to get stripped of a reserved ideology and conservative mindset that holds the opinion that your soulmate will someday, fall through your bedroom ceiling and onto your bed. More so, sticking to dating apps and groups on the internet can be a bore going by the limited number of desirable men that sign up for such (you must have had your own not-so-pleasant experiences).
Therefore, to provide suggestions on how to meet men, we encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and into activities.
1. Volunteering
One of the ways of kicking out the frustration that comes with looking for your ideal man is by lending your hands of service to others through volunteering. Here, we mean face-to-face volunteering that demands your physical presence and not online jobs. The busier you are putting smiles on people's faces, the less you think of how difficult it is to stay happy without a man. In addition to contributing to your healthy mental and physical well-being, volunteering is an avenue for connecting with helpful people like you. And who knows? You could eventually hook up with your significant other there or with the recommendation of your community of volunteering friends.
2. Taking Yourself out to Restaurants
Dress gorgeously like you are going out on a date with a man, high heels and lipstick on. Board a taxi or use Uber (don't drive yourself) and alight at a restaurant that you've already picked out for your pleasure. Majestically walk in with all the confidence you can muster, and get seated at your table. Then, order for your meal and eat with great relish without paying much attention to what those around you are doing. When you are through and have paid your bill, rest for a while before leaving. What you did for yourself is a reaffirmation of the mindset that your fun living doesn't wait for a man before it happens. With little expectations on meeting a man, you are more relaxed to flow with any guy who walks up to you for a conversation.
3. Partying
Babe, it's time to loosen up big time. Remember, we are all for stepping out of your comfort zone into something challenging. Depending on your preferences, we suggest that you start with parties that are hosted by close friends or associates. In attendance would be men who mirror your association's values and that will make it easy for you to mingle and chat as though they've been your friends. By all means, attend parties to shake off your worries, insecurities and the likes when you are involved in the dancing, screaming, and all-round fun with others.
4. Be Involved in Religious Activities in Your Place of Worship
Rather than be an insignificant member of the religious body you belong to, make your presence noticeable by actively participating in the activities thereof. Not only are you increasing your visibility to other members in the church, but you are also setting yourself up to be approached by men who see you as not just an oh-yes member, but a dedicated member who shares in their spiritual beliefs and values.
Where to Meet Men
1. In a public transit
Now, this could look like the least regarded avenue for meeting a man but don't be in a hurry to ignore it. Often, there are countless passengers on a bus or train and a better percentage of them include cute single guys. You may not hit it off immediately in your first try looking for a guy in a moving vehicle. However, once you've started getting a feel of it and having marked out the regular faces, you'll be able to muster knowing smiles which are followed by small casual talks. Who knows, that co-passenger could be the one your heart beats for or could be the one through who you'll meet the one for you.
2. The grocery store line
As much as it may appear absurd that you might hook up with a man who came grocery shopping, yet, it isn't impossible. As you wait in the queue to pay the cashier, it will be a huge kudos to you if you are nice with your gestures to those standing before and behind you regardless of their age or gender. When you are always poised with the intention of making the boring line-up bearable for others, you invariably, make yourself approachable, and even to a guy.
3. Retreat camps for singles
Cater to your spiritual needs and also bond with people of like mind in a singles' retreat camp. Varying activities that involve working and learning in pairs will afford you the opportunity for a one-on-one meeting with singles, including the male folk. Sometimes, the organizers of such meetings design activities that intentionally bring singles of the opposite sex together to increase their chances of meeting their lifetime partners. While there, enjoy your spiritual boosting, connect meaningfully, and genuinely seek the welfare of your fellow retreaters.
4. In wedding venues
Wedding venues are one of the timeless places where you can go to meet guys. As a matter of fact, it is at weddings that you have the chance to talk to as many people as possible and not be judged. The same goes for the single guys who have their eyes on the lookout for ladies. As much as you can manage, socialize with guests (don't isolate women), and be open for conversations with strangers. At the reception, you can also take the bold step of sitting close or with your choice man who should appear single in all standards - no woman companion, no wedding band. Doing this signifies your interest in him, and we know that if he's interested in you too, something good can come out of your friendly wedding-inspired chats.
5. At vacation spots
Whether it is ten miles or a hundred miles from your city, vacation spots are great places to meet men. Mind you, vacations spur you to let down your guards in order to explore the beauty of your environment; so, you are likely to be in your freest, most curious form. Apart from the locals, there are single guys who came just like you did, to spend some time away from the daily hustles and bustles of their areas of residence. They also came with their desire for a romantic connection. That means you can have as much fun as you can by yourself, and possibly with some guy at a vacation spot.
6. In art galleries and museum
Just as it happens in many Hollywood movies, a man and woman can meet and connect with each other in artsy places like art galleries and museums. By the way, you mustn't have a passion for paintings and ancient collections to visit these places; attend with your interest in meeting men who value the deep things of life. Admiring and discussing artworks with other visitors or attendees foster learning, appreciation of ingenuity and create room for the expression of individual thoughts with strangers. Even if you don't get to hook up with any man there, you have gained knowledge that will make you a good arts conversationalist the time you'll meet an art lover.
The issue isn't so much about how or where to meet a man than your preparedness to meet him. That means you have to take the search seriously by loosening up, gaining confidence in your personality as a desirable woman, rendering services to others, and being in places where men can be found in their numbers.