Quality sex is vitally important to sustaining a loving relationship. The benefits of having sex are well documented...physical, emotional, even cognitive. How often that occurs plays such an important part in your sex life.
The benefits you experience depends on many things, not the least of which is time. Have you ever wondered whether there is an answer to the question, when is the best time to have sex? This may seem like a silly question, but it's an important one. If you find you're struggling to find the "right" moment, perhaps it's time to schedule that bedtime romp.
Check Your Watch
Interestingly enough, scientists have been delving into the question of whether there is the best time to have sex for years. Turns out, there is!
Most people think of mid-afternoon as having that mid-day slump, time for a nap. But here's the wake-up call you weren't expecting...3 p.m., according to researchers, is one of the best times to "play".
You're no doubt wondering why 3 o'clock? It seems that's when men's and women's hormones are both in sync. For men, the hormone estrogen is highest around that time, making them more emotionally responsive. For women, cortisol levels peak around this time, giving them a shot of energy. Physiologically, this may be the best time for both of you, while realistically, this may not fit into your daytime calendar very well.
Likely, you're both at work and in very different workplace settings, unless you're fortunate enough to work together and you can slip into the storage closet together for a quickie. Perhaps one of you is at work and the other at home. In any case, you're not together which is kind of the key. So might there be another best time to have sex? Thankfully, yes!
If mid-afternoon doesn't work for you, try early morning, say around 7:30. Research has also shown that the optimal time to wake up is between 6:30 and 7, so you have plenty of time to get up, visit the bathroom, brush away that any evidence of morning mouth, give yourself a spritz of your favorite cologne and jump back into bed.
For some, this is the absolute best time for sex because energy is high. You're rested, refreshed, and what better way to start your day? But you may prefer to end your day with a release of energy as your climax brings with it a huge release of stress and tension. The bottom line is figuring out what's best for you and your partner based on your daily schedule.
Here are some moments that you could consider as your next romp rendezvous:
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Can you get away with a sick day? Of course, this may not be an option ALL the time, but every now and then, it could definitely be a date worth putting on the calendar!
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After your workout? This may sound counter-intuitive because you're thinking you'll be worn out after your workout. But maybe not, especially if you work out together. When finished, your adrenaline is high, your brain is fully engaged, and you've just had a shower to freshen up!
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After putting the kids to bed? Definitely! You are less likely to be interrupted and you can fall blissfully asleep in each other's arms.
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Set the alarm to wake up in the middle of the night? You don't want to do this often because of the obvious disruption to your sleep pattern, but sometimes a wake-up call can add a little excitement to your routine, and your subconscious knows you get to fall back asleep.
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After walking the dog? Knowing the poor pooch isn't sitting with his legs crossed by the front door and whining will let you both relax and know the next few hours are yours to enjoy!
Babies or Not?
Hopefully, you and your partner have had this important conversation. If not, it's overdue! Let's assume that you want to be as active sexually as possible, but need to know when is the best time to have sex and not get pregnant? For whatever the reason(s), you can't or don't want to use birth control, so is there a time during the month when you're all but guaranteed NOT to get pregnant?
While you can get pregnant almost any time (except during menstruation), there are times during the month when pregnancy is less likely. It all has to do with when you are ovulating, or when the fertile egg is released. This generally occurs 12-14 days before your menstrual period begins, so it's vital to keep a good record of your periods. This is the time when you are MOST LIKELY to get pregnant.
Until you have a record of several months in a row, the best time of the month to have sex when you are least likely to get pregnant is right after you have stopped menstruating. To keep an accurate record, chart the day your period begins and then do the same for the next month. Count the days between periods for consistency. Avoid that two-week time frame before your period begins.
Final Words
Sometimes, the best time is when the spirit moves you! Be spontaneous and let your passion flow. Armed with the knowledge of the best time to have sex, when not to have sex to avoid pregnancy and that it's okay to just let it happen now and then, your sex life will be the best ever.