Whether you're a man or a woman, deciding to marry is a big deal. It is certainly not a choice made lightly. This can cause some frustration as you may be getting impatient about your man popping the question.
On the other hand, since so much thought goes into marrying, there are bound to be clues lying about that he has been considering asking you. So, let's look at some of the possible signs he wants to marry you.
He Talks About the Future With You
Until men start considering marriage, they're not spending a lot of time thinking of the future. Certainly, they may be planning their career, but the romantic part of their future is something they've probably rarely considered. That is, until they suddenly meet the one with whom they want to spend their life.
So, if he starts talking about a future that includes you, it is a big deal. He's likely not thinking of your future together in terms of years, but permanently.
He Invites You to Family Events
Bringing you to meet the family is a big step for a guy. For one, his relatives will be sizing you up as a potential wife, and that means prying from his family that he won't likely appreciate. However, he will likely care about what his family thinks of you. He may even want their opinion before he makes any drastic steps towards marriage.
So, put your best foot forward in making a good impression. It may have an impact on what he decides to do.
He Asks What Your Dream Family Is
If he asks you this, he may be trying to figure out if your idea of happy family life happens to be the same as what he envisions. If he does, he could be making sure you'd be happy with him in a forever relationship. Likewise, he'll want to know if you're compatible with him.
He Asks You About Children
Children are a crucial decision for any married couple and could be a deal breaker if you and your guy disagree on this one. But the fact that he's asking you in the first place is a good indicator he's trying to decide whether you are the one.
If you feel tempted to tell him what he wants to hear, resist the urge. It really is an important matter, and you should make sure you agree on children before considering marriage.
He Tries to Build a Financial Foundation for You Two
You might think he's starting to lose interest in you because he has begun taking his work more seriously. However, the exact opposite might be true. To most men, providing for a spouse is extremely important. So, he may be improving his financial situation in order to take better care of you.
He Expresses His Willingness to Marry Directly
It is rare, but for some people, "Will he marry me?" may not even be a question. Sometimes a man will make his intentions crystal clear and bluntly ask you if you would wish to marry him as well. It might not be the most romantic way to approach the subject, but it can certainly cut through the usual worry and confusion if you have one of these rare men.
He Opens a Joint Account With You
Financially speaking, being tied together is no small thing for a man. Money is independence and the foundation of many men's sense of self-worth.
Whether it is a bank account or a credit card, opening an account together means he is handing a lot of trust over to you. Not only that, but having an account together makes it a lot easier for you to see where and how he spends money. If he considers that something that should be your business, it means he is quite serious about your relationship.
He Starts Saying "We" a Lot in Casual Conversation
Occasionally the answer to, "Does he want to marry me?" will show up in ways even your guy won't consciously notice. Look for unconscious patterns in his speech.
When he talks about you two to other people, does he say, "Me and (insert your name here)" or does he simply say, "we"? "We" is something that will slowly creep into a man's vocabulary as he grows more serious about his relationship. What's more telling is when he uses "we" in conversations where he's only talking about himself.
For instance, maybe he told someone, "We will come by and help you move that sofa." Odds are, you aren't going to be moving anything. He is instead starting to see the actions as being done by both of you because you are one team.
He Wants the Two of You to Get a Pet
Pets can be like kids. More to the point, pets can be a precursor to kids – a lower-stakes game of raising a creature. It's also a sign that he intends to stay with you, as no one would want to make an emotional investment in a pet knowing one of you will have to painfully part with it at the end of the relationship.
He Starts Letting You Into His Life Completely
There are a lot of things we don't consider the other person's business in a relationship. Things change when you start thinking of marriage, though. Your significant other needs to know you fully - both the good and the bad.
If your guy is starting to let you in to know every aspect of him, he may be giving you a chance to decide if he's right for you. After all, once married, it's impractical to keep secrets from your spouse. So, it's better to lay yourself bare in advance and see what your potential spouse thinks of what they see.
Nothing in life is 100% certain. But how many of these signs have your man shown lately? One or two may be a fluke or perhaps something serious.
However, if you find they are showing a lot of these signs, maybe it is time to prepare for a proposal. Sometimes the answer to, "Does he want to marry me?" is right in front of you.