Whether you like a guy and want him to ask you out, or you're in a long term relationship and just want to get his attention, playing hard to get can be a lot more fun than just asking for his number or demanding his attention.
Here are some practical suggestions, but keep in mind that it's supposed to make things fun and not frustrating. So be sure to limit the games, to avoid sending the wrong message that you are simply "ungettable".
How to Play Hard to Get
If you want a guy to like you or want your guy to be affectionate and spend more time with you, then sometimes it's better to inspire them to be this way rather than to ask for it. We want to generate these feelings in them so that they give us the attention we want, because they want to, not because we asked!
Learn how to play hard to get with these tips below and you will eventually get your guy's attention or the date you want without you having to ask.
1. Be a little hot and cold
This means that when you see your guy, you'll be very attentive, laugh at all his jokes, and be very touchy-feely and flirty. On the following day, you will pretty much ignore him. When he speaks to you, you'll just answer with a few words and no eye contact. This will leave him a little confused and totally thinking about you. Your coldness will make him see what he's missing and he will soon seek out the warmth and attention you usually show him. It might be the push he needs to finally take you seriously as girlfriend material.
2. Be mysterious
A mystery is intriguing and lingers in the mind. If the object of your affection asks you a question about yourself or what you are doing, play hard to get, don't always tell him straight away, that's no fun at all. He will accept your answer and not think anything of it again. However, if you laugh and say "You wouldn't like to know!" and walk away, you will have sparked his interest. Him not knowing everything about you, will make you seem enticing and attractive.
3. Don't contact him for a few days
If you regularly call your boyfriend and always keep in contact with him, he will get used to it and will begin to take your contact for granted. Your calls will no longer be special or important like they used to be at the beginning of your relationship.
Get his interest and excitement about hearing from you back, by not calling him for a few days. When he doesn't get those intimate goodnight calls and sweet good morning texts from you, he will probably call you, demanding to know what has distracted you from him. Maybe now you could tell him that you thought he was taking your contact for granted, or that it's him that is distracted from you.
4. Casually ask him to hang out
A more simple way of playing hard to get is by asking him to hang out in a casual way. This works well if you would like him to consider next time asking you out in a romantic way. It's also a fun tip if you are already in a relationship and go on dates all the time. Suggesting having a coffee together is easy enough to do. While you're hanging out, just be super casual and talk about work stuff or something simple - not about your feelings or what you want from him!
If you've been with your boyfriend for a while, hanging out can also be a casual outing. Maybe doing something he enjoys, like playing video games, watching football or a tv show - again, keep it casual. Don't try to interact with him too much and avoid talking about anything serious. This will be a completely unexpected experience that will leave fond feelings of you in his mind. He will definitely want to do it again!
5. Have your own life and space
When you are in a good relationship, it's easy to want to spend all your time together. You don't make as many plans with your friends and your focus is now only on him. It feels great at first but eventually, it becomes boring and your boyfriend will probably be the first to lose interest. Once you start going out with your friends again, maintain your space by not inviting him to everything you do and you will find that his interest will quickly return.
6. Stay busy
This tip on how to play hard to get is just good general relationship advice. It's always healthy for a girl to have other things going on in their lives other than their partner. A hobby that you enjoy will keep your mind off of him and keep you from doing the things girls do to demand attention from their boyfriends because they are bored or lonely. Remember that always looking for attention can be an unattractive habit. Stay busy, excited about your life and full of good energy and your man is guaranteed to always want to be around you. There won't even be any need to play hard to get!
Summary
Having learned the ways to play hard to get, you can choose the tip that is most suitable for your situation and your guy's personality. If you try these tips and don't get the response you desire, then just be honest about what you want. If he really cares about you and your relationship he will surely try to give you the attention and affection you need.