As a woman in a romantic relationship with a man, you've got to be equipped with the knowledge on how to keep your man. Yes, we agree that the above statement sounds childish; after all, a man that wants to stay with you will stay by choice. More so, he is the one that promised to have you to himself in the first place. But then again, with the increasing rates of cheating and divorces across the country and in several continents around the world, it may be best men and women alike to do all they can to keep their relationships in good shape. In this post, the attention is on the woman. So, the following ten suggestions will help teach you how to keep your man.
1. Be an Observant Woman
It is important that you train yourself in noticing what goes on with your husband at home or at work. Sometimes, your man could decide to keep certain information from you to avoid stressing you out. Rather than let you know, his actions and inactions could speak volumes. It then lies on you to find out intuitively and spring into action by probing him or sparing him some privacy. Ignoring the signs that all isn't well with him could provide a gateway for someone else to take your place to provide him with comfort and solace.
2. Don't Be a Clingy Woman
Love teaches us to be possessive of the people that are dear to our hearts. That said, if not checked, the same possessiveness could ruin our cherished relationships. As his woman who he cares a lot about, it isn't necessarily that you reciprocate with excessive adherence to him for all your needs. Give him room to breathe and to attend to his social life outside you. When he needs to hang out with the men, don't insist on going with him. Also, it is rather absurd to call hourly just to check upon him. Do away with clinginess so that your man won't get suffocated loving you.
3. Be Fun to Be With
It is the dream of every happy man to be with a happy woman. Be that kind of woman he will be amused and delighted when with her. Though this doesn't call for 24/7 cheerfulness, you shouldn't be sad all day either. Even in your arguments, be humorous. Intentionally do away with nagging, and give him the impression that he contributes to your happiness. Being fun to be with will make him desire to have you around him often.
4. Be a Supportive Woman
Going with your observational skills, there are times in your man's life when he will want your support without voicing it. Your ability to notice when he is over-encumbered with deadlines to meet or lots of bills to pay will help you support him in the ways that you can. In all your supportive roles, however, make it less of favor to him and more of a pleasure to yourself as his darling woman. If you don't do it for him, who will?
5. Give Compliments Generously
Truth be told, we all crave verbal expressions of appreciation and reverence from those we love. Your man is no exception. Honor him with compliments as they affect his personality, wardrobe, and actions. Always look for the praiseworthy attributes to mention to him. And not only should you esteem your man in the public place, but also in the privacy of your home and in bed. Doing this in bed is a huge turn-on for most men.
6. Forgive Often
Your man is human and humans are annoying, imperfect, and prone to mistakes. Learn to forgive him for the little mistakes and also for the grave ones. Forgive when he apologizes from his heart and when he doesn't seem to see his wrongs. It is important that you know that forgiveness is more or less a gift to yourself and your relationship. However, any man who takes your forgiveness for granted isn't worth staying with. If you are in that situation, you better rethink the relationship.
7. Get Into Your Seductive Mood
Even though there is no foolproof method for stopping him from cheating on you, it is worth noting that living out the allure that makes you the superwoman you are is something that might help. Ditch your drab house clothes for eye-opening bum shorts and hot tops. Smell nice in every part of your house, and incorporate sexy lingerie into your bedroom fashion style. Above all, get your man helplessly drooling over you with your well-groomed hair, face, and overall physical appearance.
8. Initiate Sex, Sometimes
It is a thing of worry for most men to always be the ones to start being sexual with you. For them, it makes the bedroom boring, and it makes you less appealing to them. That has to change with you taking the step to initiate sex sometimes. Tease him with your hands and tongue when he least expects such and when the sexual act commences properly, take charge and teach him an unforgettable lesson with your body.
9. Be Willing to Experiment Sexually With Him
Maybe you saw interesting sexual positions in a magazine or he imagined something he wants to try out with you. Either way, add steam to your bedroom experience with exotic styles with your man. Don't withhold yourself from experimenting with him, and whenever you get uncomfortable along the way, communicate lightheartedly without making him feel that he is using you, and vice versa.
10. Maintain a Healthy Sense of Self
If you are often in touch with your self-worth, chances are you will take pride in your confidence as a woman hugely sought after.
There is little need stressing yourself or fidgeting over keeping a man because the final decision to stay or to leave lies on him and not on what you do or don't do. So, don't lose yourself in your relationship to be able to stay above the waters if it eventually crumbles.