Relationships are a good place to be. When you are in good terms with your better half, you enjoy the fruits. You will even wish you met them earlier. But sometimes you worry too much you forget about the important things like being happy. Your relationship doesn't have to be perfect, because there is no such thing. But, there are healthy relationships, and that's what you should be striving for. If that is so, then how should you feel in a relationship?
How Should You Feel in a Relationship?
Partners in a healthy relationship have their fair share of fights and disagreements. But in the end, they overcome it all because love always wins. They go through life together, always focusing on improving their relationship. If you belong to this category, congratulations. If not, let's discuss how you should feel in a relationship. They can be a great eye-opener.
1. Be comfortable with the pace of your relationship
When you are in a healthy relationship, you feel no pressure or anxiety. You understand your partner, and they understand you. You both set the right, comfortable pace, and you enjoy it. There are times when you and your partner are not in sync with how far you want to take it or how fast you want to get there. It's normal. What is important is that you communicate effectively and consider each other's feelings.
2. Be comfortable with your need for independence and individual space
No matter how in love you feel you are, you need your own space. You and your partner should be able to manage your own lives together and as individuals. You both have personal interests and goals to achieve. When you are in a healthy relationship, you both set yourselves free to pursue other things. Secondly, both of you should strive to be independent. Remember, when you give each other space, your relationship grows because you miss each other.
3. Trust each other
If you fully trust one another, don't be paranoid and make up things that the other has not done yet. You should not doubt each other or put your partner through tests to find out if they are faithful. Do not snoop around and proactively look for signs of cheating. Respect each other's privacy.
4. Enjoy each other
When you are in a healthy relationship, you have fun together. You play, you laugh and tease each other. You don't have to have a lot in common to enjoy each other's company. Just relax, be happy and enjoy the ride. Things will get better. When you don't overthink it, things flow naturally. Even life between the sheets becomes more enjoyable. But if you are feeling empty in a relationship, it might be time to reassess the relationship.
5. Solve conflicts right away or don't be intimidated with conflicts
Conflicts are normal in a relationship, but the fights should be productive. When you are with your better half, you find ways to solve conflicts. Whether you agree to disagree, you avoid confrontations. Don't point fingers, find better ways to resolve the problem respectfully instead. No one comes out a winner during arguments. Just aim for a resolution and withhold judgment. Let love win!
6. Plan your future together
When you are in the right relationship, you are both enthusiastic about your future. You plan to share your current and future plans with your partner. And your visions are clear of what you both expect. You may not discuss children yet, but you're clear about the direction your relationship should take. Above all, you listen to your partner and give them time to explain their minds, and vice versa.
7. Make progress together
If you don't make progress together or if you regularly fight over finances, then it's a bad sign you may be in a toxic relationship. Partners in a healthy relationship make joint progress. Some even share their financial goals. Strong partners start projects together and support each other. When you are in a healthy relationship, you become each other's pillar, and you both strive to be happy.
8. You forgive and let things go
She annoys you, he repeats the same mistakes, so you are disappointed. Your partner may say things they don't mean, sometimes it happens. Forgive them and let things go. If you keep such hurtful things, they may escalate to something toxic in the future. Strong partners can communicate effectively, forgive each other and let things go. And that is how you know each other.
Sighs/Feelings That You Aren't in a Healthy Relationship
1. You feel anxious when you're together
When you're in an unhealthy relationship, you're not relaxed. Your thoughts are unusual and full of fears, worries, and doubts against your partner. Sometimes you may even feel insecure, especially at the earlier stages of the relationship. So, if these signs describe your relationship, you may consider discussing it over with your partner to look for a better way to improve your relationship.
2. You feel unconfident and unsafe in your relationship
The right partner makes you feel confident and safe when you're together, and not the other way around. A healthy relationship needs to provide a safe home for both you. But if you feel unsafe, unrelaxed, unprotected, unhappy, and all other unusual things in your relationship, it's a sign that things are not working out well.
3. You feel sleepy and empty
You seem to put a lot of energy into the relationship, but your soul still feels empty. You feel tired and worked up whenever you're with your partner, and you wonder whether it's normal. So, you start asking questions - why do I feel sleepy around my boyfriend? This question is common. The truth is, whatever you're feeling is unusual, so the chances are your relationship is unhealthy. Strong partners feel happy and secure, and they enjoy each other's company.
4. You feel stressed up
Relationships are supposed to a place where we seek solace and relieve our stress. But if the opposite is true, then it is a sign you're in the wrong relationship. While anxiety can be harmless, especially when you're starting a new relationship, it isn't supposed to prolong. That's why at some point Richardson noted that "New things are stressful." So, sometimes, stress and nervousness can be normal when your relationship is young. But if this persists, you may need to talk to your partner about it to make things easy and enjoyable.
5. You feel suffocated
Sometimes jealousy is a normal emotion in humans. However, it becomes problematic when your partner tries to become possessive and control your life. The right partner will not want to monitor your movements around or try to put restrictions on your life. Many people confuse possessiveness with love, and they end up suffocating their partners. Strong partners are neither overprotective nor insecure.
6. You feel unappreciated
You appreciate her, she appreciates you, and that's the order of a healthy relationship. If your partner never recognizes your efforts in anything you do, then in the first place, they may not be interested in the relationship. Additionally, sometimes, for some strange reasons, some people become jealous of their partner's achievements. If you end up with such a partner, you may need to run for your peace of mind. Strong partners not only support each other but also positively appreciate each other.
7. You feel neglected
Partners in a healthy relationship, never think of neglecting each other. They love and cherish one another, and strive to be happy. Then, how should you fee in a relationship? If you feel your partner neglects you and is not putting in enough effort (as you do) to make you happy, then it can mean they don't care for your feelings. So, you should ask yourself if the relationship is worth your time and energy.
Bottom Line
There are many ways to tell whether your relationship is destined for better or worse. The above feeling signs is an eye-opener. If you feel you're in a healthy relationship, then keep it up. If you feel like you're in an unhealthy relationship, then you should consider better ways of improving it if at all your partner is interested. Or, if the water is already spilled, you can try an alternative route for your happiness.