Romantic relationships are always amazing in the beginning, but in time, life happens. No matter how amazing your relationship is, it will eventually face hard times. During these times, you'll feel that you're no longer happy and will begin to wonder whether you should stay in the relationship or leave.
Signs You're Not Happy in Your Relationship
These days, things between you and your partner are difficult. The closeness you felt before is not there and you feel sad a lot of the time. You find you are now asking yourself "am I happy in my relationship or are we just having some difficult days?"
Here are some signs that it's not just difficult days, you are actually unhappy in your relationship.
1. Constant fighting
Fighting affects the quality of relationships over time. If you are fighting more often than you did before, it's not a good sign. You will end up with an unhealthy relationship. Fighting with your loved one is always upsetting and will leave you feeling unhappy. When fights become frequent you will find that you feel unhappy almost all the time.
2. No quality time together anymore (and you're happy when you're alone)
Healthy relationships need both partners to be happy to spend time together with no distractions. This time together will allow you to strengthen your bond by sharing experiences and reminding each other of what you love about each other. This is called "quality time." When one of you starts showing signs of no longer being interested in spending time together, it's a sure indicator that they are not happy in the relationship.
3. Loss of interest to explore
You both used to love sharing your interests and were even happy to do things that you weren't particularly interested in, just because your partner wanted to do them. But now he's not interested in exploring different things with you, in fact, he appears irritated if you even ask.
4. No space for him in your future
You might begin to notice that when you think of your future, you don't include him in your plans. This means subconsciously, you are preparing not to be with him. Even if your heart won't admit it, your head has already accepted that the relationship may not survive. This is a common sign of unhappiness in a relationship.
5. No progress
You've noticed that there's no progress in your relationship. You haven't achieved anything together recently. You haven't taken any big steps towards your life together in the future, such as having children or moving into a bigger or better home. In fact, when anything that could progress the relationship comes up, there is anger, indifference or just negative emotions.
6. You still think of your ex
Some people may tell themselves "I don't know if I'm happy in my relationship," but if thinking about your last partner makes you feel unhappy, this gives you your answer. If you are still constantly thinking about your ex, this is a sign that you are currently not in a good relationship because your ex made you feel happier than your present partner does.
7. Lies often or suspects cheating
If you are no longer honest with each other, things can't be good between you. When you are truly in love, you want to be truthful and share things. If you have reasons to suspect your boyfriend of cheating, or if you are the one seeing someone else, it is fair to say that you are not happy in the relationship. If there were no issues, it's less likely for the desire to look outside of the relationship to even appear. Cheating and lies are almost a definite sign of unhappiness.
8. Too much criticism
Anyone who believes that they are constantly being criticized by the person they love will definitely feel unhappy. If everything you do is wrong and makes the other person angry or upset, it's a sign that they are unhappy in the relationship too. At this point, both of you are feeling dissatisfied. It might be time for an honest conversation about what the issues may be.
9. Poor sex life
Intimacy is one of the by-products of a strong relationship. If your significant other is constantly arguing with you, lying to you, or criticizing you, it's unlikely that you would still feel aroused by this person. When sex gets awkward, it can be hard to talk about it without making it even more awkward. It takes strength to bring up the fact that there clearly is a rift between you. When your sex life has become a sad version of what it used to be, it's enough to cause unhappiness.
10. Feeling contempt towards your partner
If you are frequently irritated by your other half or you find yourself treating them as if they are inferior to you, this is what is called "contempt." This may be one of the reasons you are thinking "I'm not happy in my relationship." Rolling your eyes at your partner, mocking them or laughing at them are all signs of contempt and definitely mean you are unhappy in your relationship.
Summary
You no longer have to ask yourself; "Am I happy in my relationship." The signs explained above will make it clear to you whether you are happy in your relationship or not. If the answer is no, then try to talk to your partner about what you think the problems might be and see if you can find a way to resolve them. If you've tried everything and still feel unhappy then maybe the course of your relationship has come to its end.